I have been a newborn photographer for almost 6 years now. It is my passion, I LOVE babies, and I like to think that they LOVE me back. Babies are miracles, the whole process of pregnancy and birth, it is a miracle. It’s a joyous and emotional time. This is why I do what I do, but what if it doesn’t all work out the way we expect it to?!? What do we, as newborn photographers, do when that precious baby becomes an angel?
Last week, I experienced the other side, the very dark and difficult side, of being a newborn photographer. There was a momma, who was just 23 weeks along, who was admitted to the hospital with some scary complications. As soon as I was notified, I began to pray for the best. As the day wore on, and it became very apparent that this sweet baby was going to be born an angel. His momma cherished every last moment, every kick, movement, and heartbeat, that she was given, until there was no more.
I arrived at the hospital shortly after birth, while momma was resting and baby was being cleaned up in the nursery. Other family members began to arrive and we waited for mom to be emotionally ready to see her sweet boy. The time came and the nurses brought him in. It was like the air was sucked out of the room…of course, mom and dad were visibly upset, but as a newborn photographer, one who captures the joyous moments of this time, it was very hard to bare. I kept my composure the best I could, I was there to capture these moments, and that is what I was going to do, even with tears rolling down my cheeks.
Nothing can prepare you for the loss of a child! NOTHING can prepare you for the loss of a child. Having experienced it myself, I can honestly say that. Through this particular tragedy, I learned that there are wonderful groups of people who stand ready to help anyone that suffers this unimaginable tragedy. I just so happen to have a wonderful friend that is C0-Leader of the Florida Chapter of TEARS Foundation and she was in constant contact asking what she could do for the parents.
If you have never heard of the TEARS Foundation, please check out their page. They do amazing things for families during the toughest time of their lives. It is a great resource to have, that I pray you never have to use!
Please keep this family in your thoughts and prayers as they prepare a memorial for their baby, and as they learn to cope with his loss.